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Relfections of 2019 – Welcome 2020

It’s 2020 y’all!! Happy New Year! Can you believe it? It’s been 20 years since we thought the world was going to explode in 2000!! Now look at us! I was only 7 back then and my biggest worry was not scratching my Backstreet Boys Millennium CD! Well, fortunately, the world didn’t explode and we still outchea in these streets getting multiple degrees, cars, apartments, mans, and developing ourselves and relationships! We a whole 27 now! *snaps fingers and points lips*

Anyway, I’m not going to make this post about my goals for 2020 cuz ya girl likes to work in silence. I’ll just let y’all see it when I make them happen. Instead, I want to reflect, because…growth.

2019 was full of firsts for me! Good and bad. Mostly bad. This year was the first time I flew around the world, the first time I’ve experienced death that affected me to the depths of my soul, the first time I lost a job out of my control, the first time I’ve been ghosted, and the first time I took mental health so seriously.

Everything I listed above warrants it’s own story-time post, but for now, I’ll be slightly less detailed and focus on what I learned.

I had the privilege to spend Christmas 2018 and New Year 2019 traveling through Europe for 2 weeks with my mom and sister! We went to London, Paris, Milan, Amsterdam, and more! Shortly after, I flew to China and visited Hong Kong, Shenzhen and Guangzhou for work. Being in so many counties was such a humbling experience! Speaking to someone who speaks a completely different language made me realize how small I am in the world. Immersing myself in those cultures and environments was indescribable! I realized even more that there is so much to see!

About a month after my trips, I came home from work one day to see my mom and sister in tears. My Grandma passed away. I didn’t realize how close I was to her until that very moment. All of our trips and talks were bonding moments I’ll cherish forever. I never fully knew how close I was to her until she wasn’t here anymore.

It was eye opening to realize how close I’ve become to certain people in my life. A lot of times we get lost in the day to day and forget to stop and appreciate everything we have, everyone we love. We’re often reminded when something tragic happens. I learned to speak my feelings more often than not and to show my gratitude to the people around me, even if we disagree. This was the first time I felt pain from losing someone. I felt it for months. We all did. We still are. I don’t think that will ever go away. My reflection is to cherish everything because you don’t know your time or the time of your loved ones. Spend time in the now and document it. A lot of my memories with her have been documented through photos and videos. I’m so thankful for that because even though she’s not here, I have those to reminisce!

As if mourning my grandma wasn’t hard enough, I had to deal with my job moving to the East Coast. Which means, yes, everyone in our entire building lost their job! It became a count down. 8 weeks, 6 weeks, 4 weeks etc. to….”displacement”. With all that, we still had to work, “Business as usual” all while interviewing and looking for the next chapter. It was the most depressing environment I’ve ever experienced. It didn’t help that I was interviewing multiple times a week and went months without landing a job.

Around this time, I met a handsome Dominican man. He was everything I’ve ever prayed for in man: intelligent like no other, super motivated, he could sing, and was from a Caribbean culture. We got very close…maybe a little too fast. I mean can you blame me? If you found what you’ve been looking for, wouldn’t you want to lock that down too? Well I think ole boy had a secret life because things weren’t adding up. I guess I was noticing things I shouldn’t have and he decided to block me on everything known to mankind. No goodbye, no conversation. Nothing. He just dissapeared without a trace.

Ok are you keeping up with me? I lost my grandma, I lost my job, couldn’t get another job and now I lost my man. Ya girl was a silent wreck mentally and honestly this was the first time I realized how things affected me. I eventually came off of all social media platforms and started cleansing my thoughts because I just couldn’t deal with anything anymore. That was such a great reset for me. I thank the people who checked up on me when I was quiet. I learned who are really in my corner looking out for me and who aren’t.

In hindsight, ya girl had a rough 2019, especially these last few months. But, I’m proud of myself for getting through it all and how I conducted myself with strength. I held it together pretty well and I still always have a smile on my face. In a sense, writing this blog was therapeutic for me as well.

Things are better now. Thankfully! And I see great things coming very soon. My overall reflection of 2019 is: Life is too short to stress about things out of your control. Go live your life, experience everything, share love, be patient and be thankful.

Happy New Year to you and your family from me and mine! 2020 is a new year and a new decade. I’m excited to see what happens next!! Are you?

With so much love,

Kelsey

And The Winner Is…

Hi everyone. Thank you so much for participating in my poll! I really appreciate the feedback!  Here are the results:

  • 3rd Place: Modern Avenue
  • 2nd Place: Living With Kelsey
  • 1st Place & Winner: The Modern Life

I’m actually happy “The Modern Life” won. I was hoping you guys would like that name as much as I did. But unfortunately it was liked so much that someone already claimed the URL. I tried many variations for “The Modern Life”: “Modern Life”, “Modern Living”, “Living Modern”, the list goes on. They were either all taken or asking for over $2000 dollars for the domain. I love my blog and I want it to grow, but I’m not investing over $2000 in a domain name! I was a little discouraged but I went back to the drawing board. I incorporated my favorite color and things related to my life, but everything I liked was taken. I slept on it and woke up with my blog name still on my mind. So today, after a while of brainstorming and advice, I came up with “The Modern Reality”. Thankfully the domain was available! Now, it’s on to coming up with a logo!

Thank you again to everyone who participated and those who helped me in person! The domain/blog name hunt is finally over!

~Kelsey Sherri

Naming The Blog

Please take a second to vote for your favorite name below! I’ll be making a decision tomorrow! Thank you all! I really appreciate your help!

~Kelsey Sherri

Please Help Me Name My Blog!

Hey everyone! Remember when I said I needed help naming my blog? Well, I’ve come up with a few ideas and I wanted to see what you guys think. Please vote for your favorite name below and based on the most votes I will finally have a new blog name!

Thanks for your help!

 

~Kelsey Sherri

I Need Help Naming My Blog!

Good morning everyone. I’ve been thinking, I need a name for my blog. Right now, it’s just my first and middle name, but I don’t think I want my name in the title anymore. That’s where you guys come in. I need help coming up with a new name!

So far my blog has been a lifestyle blog talking about fashion, food, travel, and my life in the fashion industry. I’m not sure what other topics I would be talking about but I think those will always be the main ones. I guess it’s geared towards fashion, but that’s not all it is. It’s about life after college, figuring things out, and transitioning to an adult while trying to become successful.  Obviously, I need your help!

Please, if you have any ideas, comment below. You can email me your ideas too! Kelseysherri@gmail.com

Also, I’m curious, how did you guys come up with the name for your blog?

Thanks in advance! I look forward to seeing what you guy come up with.

~Kelsey Sherri

 

Blogger Recognition

This is my first time being nominated and I feel so sad that it took me so long to do this post! This will probably be my first and last nomination because of that! Thank you Allison for nominating me! I’m so happy that you thought of me and you’re an avid reader of my blog! Take a look at her blog here!
Here are the rules for this one:
  • Thank whoever nominated you and include a link to their blog
  • Write a post and give a brief story of how your blog started
  • Give a piece of advice or two to new bloggers
  • Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to
  • Let the nominees know you have nominated them and provide a link to the nomination details.
I started this blog in July 2015. I’ve always been a writer and I have my 3rd grade teacher Mrs. Rice to thank for that. She encouraged us to write something everyday in our journals. Actually it was homework if you really think about it but I never saw it that way. I wrote everything from how my day was going, what I ate, to how badly I didn’t want to clean my room. As I grew older, I used to keep a journal of trips I took or random days something happened and I HAD to write about it.
Then, sometime around high school, I was introduced to this world of blogging. I thought, “Why would anyone want to write online and have their business out there?” But as I read through blogs I realized how much people open up and communicate with each other. It’s a community, a supportive one at that, for the most part. I also noticed how many different types of blogs there are. That’s one thing I never really thought about. I decided I’d give it a try.
My first blog was on tumblr and I failed miserably. I ended up reblogging more than writing and my blog turned into a photo log of my feelings and that’s not what I had in mind. There’s nothing wrong with that type of blog. I love photos and my collection was actually pretty nice! It’s just not what I had in mind for my own blog. I wanted to write about any and everything.
So I gave it up for a while and continued physically writing, until this past July when I started up again. I’d say I’m pretty happy with my blog so far and the response I’ve gotten so far is amazing!
My advice for new bloggers:
Don’t be afraid to write.
This past weekend I sat down with a calendar and started writing out topic ideas and scheduling them. As I was going through some ideas, I would get nervous about a topic. Could I do this? Would I be able to pull that topic off. Do I know enough about the topic to actually write about it? Then I thought, well you know what, this is MY blog. I can do whatever the BLEEP I want! Own your blog and write whatever you please. But, do remember, this is a public forum and people will see it.
Don’t put off writing.
I made the mistake of putting off blog posts because I was tired or being lazy. Don’t do that, because days and weeks will go by right under your nose. To help avoid that, set aside some time each week to write. Even if it’s just 20 minutes. Have a few topics ready to go in case you can’t think of something to write about right away. Use the scheduling tool. Let’s say you have two hours and you’re able to write out multiple blog posts. Schedule them for different days and times. that way, if you don’t get a chance to write you have one ready to go in your drafts, you can always come back to it. I like to use Google docs because I can come back to it on any computer, tablet, and my phone.
Write for yourself.
This is the most important. Write for yourself. Don’t write for the likes or comments. Write because you enjoy it. We can see how genuine your writing is by the tone. Just be you.
Thank you again Allison for the nomination. I’d like to share the love and nominate these lovely blogs below!
Ordinary Adventures
White Walls and Wanderlust
Keeping Up With Britt
Sonofabeach96
Think Wear Love

 

-Kelsey Sherri